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Resign Gracefully

Resign with Grace

When you are offered a new job it can be tempting to stick two fingers up at the old one and the people you haven’t been seeing eye to eye with and skip off into the sunset. It’s probably not a good idea though because unless your new job is on the moon and you aren’t ever coming back, the chances are you will see your ex-colleagues in the future and it may get really awkward. So resign gracefully and keep your work mates sweet if you can!

Imagine bumping into your past boss at a network or conference when you are with your new colleagues? Do you avoid eye contact and hope they don’t speak to you? Or do you pretend nothing has happened and you’ve always been best friends? Well that might work but it doesn’t feel very authentic. Probably the best outcome is not to get into that situation in the first place and to keep it professional when you leave.

If you don’t act professionally when you leave your job it may impact on your reference, your future job prospects and your reputation.

There may of course be situations that mean that by the time you leave you aren’t on good terms with your colleagues anyhow, but that’s for another post!

So here are Cygnet’s top tips to resign gracefully.

1. Wait until you get an offer in writing from your new employer. If you resign before you have a job offer in writing you could end up without a job.

2. Check your contract and make sure you give the appropriate amount of notice. This should be in writing and given at the same time as you give verbal notice.

3. Keep your letter polite and explain what you have gained from your time in this job, don’t just focus on the reasons you want to leave. There may be an opportunity to give feedback about why you are moving on but it’s best to do this if asked. If you are asked, be balanced and constructive – don’t just say it’s the worst job you’ve ever had!

4. Tell your manager that you’re leaving before anyone else there. It’s the professional way to behave and you don’t want Suzie in accounts to tell them before you do.

5. Hand over your work – it’s important that your work is completed and that any clients and projects have a transition that works for both sides. Make sure you aren’t the reason for any issues.

6. Be nice! Don’t criticise or be overly negative. If there are genuine negative reasons for you leaving then address them through the proper channels.

7. Work hard. It’s important that you get all your work done before you go (if it’s realistic to be able to do so) There is nothing worse for those left behind to find a pile of files that haven’t been written up / followed up / dealt with correctly after someone’s departure.

8. If you have decided to leave and are offered an incentive to stay, be straight with the person offering the opportunity – whether or not that is to consider staying or your decision to leave has been made.

9. Say Thank You to everyone who has helped you achieve your goals in the company. You never know when you will meet them again and your grace is remembered and repaid!

10. Keep sensitive information confidential. It will help you maintain trust with past and future employers.

I hope this article helps you to resign gracefully, and if you have any advice to add please do leave them in the comments. We love to hear from our readers!

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Workplace Conflict

The Do’s and Don’ts of Workplace Conflict

Workplace conflict can be very damaging to employee health.  Not only does it lead to stressed out employees, it also damages productivity, as people avoid each other or spend a great deal of time attempting to put the situation right instead of getting on with the work they are there to complete.  However, workplace conflict is very common, so today I will look at the best way of dealing with it if it happens to you.

Do –

  • Keep calm.  Don’t let your emotions get in the way.
  • Keep a diary and record events as they happen in a factual way.  This can feel very alien as we don’t want to get other people into trouble.  However, situations can escalate and if this happens you will need evidence to back up what you are saying to your manager.
  • Seek support from a colleague, or impartial third party
  • Try to resolve the situation informally with the person you are having difficulty with
  • Challenge the behaviour not the person
  • If you can’t sort it out yourself, ask your manager to help
  • If your manager does not resolve the situation read the relevant policies and procedures and follow them to make a formal complaint
  • If you need information on your rights as an employee, ACAS have a helpline that can advise on the law and what you should do next
  • If you need emotional and practical support, contact Cygnet Careers on 07881294894 or email Kelly@cygnetnortheast.com

Don’t –

  • Place blame.  This will quickly lead to escalation of the issues
  • Shout.  Try to keep your emotions out of it
  • Gossip about the person you are in conflict with
  • Get violent – this will obviously make the situation a lot worse and you could get into trouble with the law
  • Say things that are not evidence based – if you are going to confront the person you should do so in a positive way – “when you say X I feel like Y.  Please can you do B instead?”  Use your own language though!
  • Don’t take it personally

If you are facing a challenging situation Cygnet Careers can help you to get through it, so please do get in touch for advice and support.