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Job Rejection and Reflection.

Job Rejection and Reflection.

 

 

Today, I would like to focus on how to overcome rejection when you apply for a job and either you don’t hear back or you get an interview and are unsuccessful.  When applying for work it is beneficial to have an idea of what sort of work you would like and what sort of company you would like to work for, but then be flexible enough in your search so that if something comes up that you hadn’t thought of you can match it against those criteria and decide if you will apply.  Its not a good idea to focus on particular job titles as these can be misleading and may not be what you are expecting.  Its good to try not to get too focussed on one particular job that is advertised (sometimes easier said than done) and its not a good idea to be too narrow in your search, or too broad.

Once you have applied for some jobs it is sensible to keep on searching and applying for jobs that interest you.  I have worked with clients who have applied for one or two jobs, and then they sit back and watch the phone or letter box on and just after the closing date, becoming more and more depressed if they don’t hear back and sometimes very angry that the employer hasn’t even responded to them.  Unfortunately this approach is not only demoralising and demotivating – it is counter productive and you are much more likely to succeed in your job search if you carry on searching and applying, keeping good records of those you have applied for and moving on to the next application form or CV adaptation.

If you have an interview and are told you were unsuccessful, it is good practice and often advice to ask for feedback.  This can help you in the future if you are given constructive reasons why you were not chosen for the job.  However, I would advise that it is good to think about the reasons given and if they are constructive, accurate and based in fact.  I have had an experience where I was told I missed something out of a presentation but no examples were given of what I had missed so was left without anything solid to build any improvements on.  Of course this may not be the real reason for rejection.  It could be something else that they would rather not tell you about for whatever reason that might be, it might be that they had someone in mind for the role already or that there was nothing you could improve on but they had to make a decision and this time it wasn’t you.

It is good to reflect on the interview and if you can constructively criticise it yourself.  Often we can tell when we could have answered a question more thoroughly or thought of a better scenario of where  we have demonstrated a skill or quality.  Think of these examples and write them down as they might come up again in another interview.  Don’t beat yourself up though – in the moment when we are being interviewed we are often nervous and don’t always perform at our best.  Each interview we encounter is good practice for the next time we need to go through this and hopefully each time we can improve on the last one.  The more interviews experienced, the less nervous you will feel (and if this is not the case then I recommend that you access some support around this.)

Eventually, if you have your technique well honed and you have the skills needed you will be successful in changing your job.  It is a matter of time, and a numbers game.  The more applications you make the more chance you have of securing that role.  If you take the rejection personally and give up, this is obviously not going to help you get a new job.  It will of course take patience and resilience to achieve this goal, but keep going! Remember there are many people who apply for a job usually, with only one vacancy available.  If you are getting interviews you are doing well and will be successful .  If not you need to look at why you aren’t – do you need more training?  Experience?  Do you need to look at the information you are putting into the application forms?

There is help available for each stage of this process, so make sure you get it.  If you need help to stay on track ask someone you know to hold you to account for the number of jobs you apply for etc.  There is no need to do this alone – it is a difficult and time consuming time, so don’t give yourself a hard time if you don’t succeed – remember each application you fill in is taking you a step closer to your goal!

Returning to Work After a Gap

Returning to Work After a Gap

It can be difficult to return to employment following a gap for any reason – whether that is because you have been looking after someone (bringing up a family or supporting a family member due to ill health), because you have suffered a health problem yourself, or if you have been working in a career and decide you would like to pursue a different direction.

Without recent experience in the field that you would like to move into, or without an idea of what it is you want to do it can be difficult to know where to start.  There are many options open to you, and your path will be determined by a number of factors.  These include your current financial situation, how long you want to work towards your chosen field (are you prepared to retrain or volunteer for a few years?), what your current skills are and what your values are.  Its also wise to think about the opportunities that are available to you.  Is it realistic to want to be the next Prime Minister?  Well someone has to be but it’s important to know what might be involved in this and whether you think it is worth the effort.

Having a fixed idea of what you want to do can be helpful as it means you will be able to plan the steps you need to take quite easily, however there are disadvantages to this approach if you don’t have any flexibility and you are not prepared to change course if opportunities arise on the way to your chosen goal.  However on the other hand not having any idea of where you want to go and being swayed by every potential opportunity that comes your way can be a massive barrier too.  This is due to having too many opportunities and not focusing on any one thing, you are less likely to achieve any of them.

So the point of this article really is to point out that it is good to have a plan, but a plan that is flexible and one that is dynamic based on developments of the situation that invariably come up in your life.  If you don’t know where to start, or you just need a little bit of help, I can help you to get onto the right path and help you to stay focused.  Sometimes, just knowing that there is someone there asking how you are getting on with your plan can help you to stay focused and make sure you do all the things you say you are going to do!

If you need help to decide what next, or how to be successful in finding a job after taking a career break for whatever reason get in touch – Kelly@cygnetnortheast.com or phone 07881294894. Or you can use our contact form.  We can help you to explain why you haven’t been in work in a positive way.