Happy New Year! Have you made any New Years Resolutions this year? If you are, are you struggling to keep them? Well its not surprising really. I found these statistics that show that only 9.2% of people felt they were successful in achieving their resolution, so you’re not alone.
Personally, I made a resolution very many years ago (maybe around 20 years ago) never to make a new years resolution and it has been the only one I’ve ever stuck to. However, I am in a bit of a quandary. I’m a rebel, I admit it – and that means I really hate following the crowd and doing what everyone else does. It goes against the grain to update my social media with messages about Easter, Valentine’s, Christmas and other “Hallmark days” (events designed to get you to part with your hard earned cash!). However, I run a business and if I am going to be successful I need to share content that people want to see, not what makes me happy! I digress slightly. So back to me being a rebel. I’m a rebel in that I don’t make resolutions when the clock strikes 12 on 31st December (or is that 1st Jan?) and try my best to be a completely different person, as if there is something wrong with the me that existed last year. I do however, believe in self improvement and I think the best way to achieve that is through small and gradual changes.
So here’s the bit that is sticking for me this year – during 2016 I rediscovered that self development pathway that I originally stumbled upon sometime during my late teens and has never really left me…. There are times of more intensive change though as I meet people at different stages of their own journey that teach me what I need to learn. I met some people who are helping me challenge my thoughts and feelings in relation to my business and also myself as I also hit a milestone age in my life. There were big realisations that I haven’t achieved what I want to with my life and even more worrying is that I don’t really know what that is. Or that I STILL don’t know what I really want. I’ve joked for about 10 years that I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but the truth is that I grew up far too quickly when I was young and I missed out on the self discovery that most people experience at that stage in their lives.
I have written before about having a word of the year.. I think it does help to remind you of what you want more of. The idea is that you pick a word for the year that resonates with you and that you’d like to work towards. There’s no guilt because there is no wagon to fall off. It is simple and you don’t have to keep remembering it through the year but it might help you if you do set reminders for yourself of what it is. Just stating it and writing it down – maybe telling facebook or twitter will work for you or maybe set reminders in your diary. It’s your word so do what feels right for you. For me this year, I have chosen Adventure because I want to be more open to new experiences. Maybe travel but maybe not. Just experiencing different aspects of life. I’ve already got some plans for 2017 which are both personal and business related. I don’t want to share all of them but one of the things I have started on is a bucket list. And yes that is so far out of my comfort zone because I don’t like doing what everyone else is doing! Which takes me back to the whole resolutions thing that is rubbing a little…. The reason for that is that everyone is joining the gym and going on a diet and even doing dry January. Then there is me, about to join a new running group. All of my big changes are coinciding with the new year. That feels uncomfortable for me but I’ve decided that it’s OK and I will do them anyway because it’s time. Not because everyone else is doing it but because it’s right for me and that is the only time to make changes.
If it’s time for you to make some changes I would love to talk to you about them. Cygnet works with people in career transition and also those who want to get more out of life. We’ve started a weekly meditation group and we are expanding our range of services in 2017 into health and wellbeing. Contact Kelly here.